I have a book giveaway for you today! Tokens of Affection: Reclaiming Your Marriage After Postpartum Depression is billed as a book for couples recovering from postpartum depression, but I chose to review it thinking it might encourage adoptive families as well. Adoptive moms can struggle with depression in just the same way that bio moms do. Bottom line– adding a child to your family can be a very challenging adventure. And in times of stress it can be easy for people to grow apart.
As I suspected, a lot of the advice in the book did translate very easily to couples who’ve adopted. But I didn’t expect the ideas in the book to apply so easily to almost any challenging yet important relationship in life– whether that be with a spouse, a friend, or maybe even a teen who’s having a hard time seeing you as an ally instead of an enemy.
The author calls these ideas ‘tokens of affection’– basically gifts you freely give to your loved one because you desire for the relationship to grow and improve. Chapters talk about each of the tokens: esteem, collaboration, selflessness, sanctuary, expression, tolerance, and loyalty. As you read this list, you might have a gut feeling about which of these tokens might be hardest for you to offer your loved ones. The book explains how each token builds the relationship in a different way, and gives ideas for offering each of these tokens to your spouse. And the awesome thing is that both partners don’t necessarily have to have read this book– just one partner offering these tokens will begin to improve the relationship, offering both partners incentive to come together and work more at the relationship.
I’m not quite done with this book yet, but I’ve found it to be worth every minute of time I’ve given it. I recommend it very highly. If you’d like a chance to win a copy, comment below and tell me which token sounds most intriguing. Is it one you’d like to receive? One you’re good at giving? One that challenges you? I think I’m good at loyalty and collaboration, but probably could work on being more tolerant, especially of differences of opinion. I personally would love to get the token of expression– to be able to express what I’m feeling without judgement or without having to worry that expressing myself will upset the equilibrium.
OK, so that covers the giveaway. The other thing that I wanted to do in this post is ask a favor of you in regard to my Owlhaven facebook page. First, if you haven’t already liked it, would you follow this link and do so? It’s one way you can support my writing. Second, Facebook has recently made changes so that even when you ‘like’ a page, you don’t always see all of the updates on that page. (They want folks to pay for advertising.) If you would like to receive a fb notification each time there’s a new post here, what you need to do is go to the “Liked” button here on my facebook page, hover over it, and then click on “get notifications.” That way you’ll know if I have a new post up. Thanks so much!
Remember to comment below if you’d like to win a copy of ‘Tokens of Affection’ and as always, thanks so much for reading here!