I’m at least 2/3 of the way through writing this book about adoptive motherhood, and once again I am hoping for words from other adoptive mommas to more completely tell this story. As I’ve mentioned before, you can comment anonymously if you wish.
My question for today is two parts: first, what has been the greatest challenge and/or surprise to you about adoptive motherhood? And second, what are you doing as a parent that helps you feel most successful and most connected to your child?
For me, with my older girls, I’ve had to get less picky, allow a bit more sass and grumbling than I really feel comfortable with, to let them blow off steam and express feelings. Plenty of times I’ll still say (Karyn Purvis-style): ” Try that again with respect.” But I’m getting lots better at staying gentle even as I correct and not injecting my frustration/lectures into the interaction, which also decreases their need to gripe so much in the first place. It’s been a very good thing, but it’s one that took me literally years to figure out.
What about you? I’d love to hear about your challenges and successes if you are willing to share…