I’m deep in the midst of the book at the moment, but I wanted to share a few quotes that I came across this morning that got me thinking, and ended up feeling all connected to each other, in my mind at least.
The first is by Viktor Frankl, from “Man’s Search For Meaning” (HT: Daniel Koontz)
“The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails, the way in which he takes up his cross, gives him ample opportunity–even under the most difficult circumstances–to add a deeper meaning to his life. It may remain brave, dignified and unselfish. Or in the bitter fight for self-preservation he may forget his human dignity and become no more than an animal. Here lies the chance for a man either to make use of or to forgo the opportunities of attaining the moral values that a difficult situation may afford him. And this decides whether he is worthy of his sufferings or not. …Such men are not only in concentration camps. Everywhere man is confronted with fate, with the chance of achieving something through his own suffering.”
The second is by Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, and relates to parenting traumatized children:
“Our parenting goals must change. The question is not “how do I change my child’s behavior.” The question is “how do I increase regulation, solidify safety, and built connection with my child?” Until those things are in place, behavior modification is futile. If your child can’t seem to ‘learn’ or change their behavior, then you are asking the wrong question.”
The third is actually two quotes posted together on the Empowered to Connect Facebook page:
“A scar is evidence of a wound but also evidence that we can heal” — Scott McClellan, Tell Me a Story
“As we are reminded of our children’s past may we remember rightly not only the hurts they have suffered, but also the healing work that God has done and is doing in their lives. And may we be faithful to join Him in this work as it transforms not only them, but us as well.”