Remember the secret kindness project I blogged about in January? We have SO fallen off the wagon. The youngest kiddo, who teases the older ones the most and therefore receives the least charity from the teens, is really feeling unhappy. And the bigger ones are feeling totally justified in continued unkindness because she is being such a pest.
After a big upset this morning with multiple kids airing grievances, I’ve re-instituted the kindness project. Part of the reason the project got derailed was because I wasn’t remembering to assign new ‘buddies’ each week. So I’m taking it back to its original form, with each of the older ones doing three kind things for the youngest one. The youngest one also has the assignment to do one kind thing for each of her older siblings each day.
To provide a dab more motivation, I’m setting out a candy bowl for awhile. Kids can show me their chart and pick a treat once they’ve checked off their 3 nice things each day.
I also talked with the kids about loving like Jesus does. He loves everyone, even the ones who offend him. And I prayed with the kids for gentle hearts towards each other, and also prayed that I will through God’s grace be able to steadily model gentleness and love even when kids offend me. Such a hard job for us all. I am so grateful for the grace that God has shown me when I blow it. I hope that by showing more love myself, I can encouraging our kids towards love too.
And chocolate as a partial incentive can’t hurt.
How do you encourage a reset in your family when attitudes get out of control?