A great mom

This morning I happened to hear a snippet of radio conversation where a mom was sharing the sweet praise her 12-year-old daughter had written and gave to her on a valentine yesterday.  The DJ speaking with the mom congratulated the mom on such a cool kid and said, “Good job. Obviously you’re a great mom.”

Well, here’s a reminder for the mommas out there whose teens and preteens didn’t all shower you with love and appreciation on Valentine’s Day.   Don’t judge yourself by your children’s choices.  Give yourself grace. Sure, parent with the best wisdom possible. Guide them as best you can. But remember your children have free will, minds of their own.

Their choices — whether tiny ones like giving (or not giving) mom a valentine, or big ones that could mess up their lives for a good long time—those choices ultimately are a reflection on them, on their hearts, and where they are on their own personal journey.

Sometimes our very best efforts will not yield the results we long to see. Not yet anyway.  That doesn’t make us bad moms;  it simply means we’re doing our best while parenting imperfect, struggling souls in an imperfect world.

You are a treasure to God, whether or not you got sweet words of thanks from your kiddo yesterday.  Good job, mom.  Keep being faithful even when you don’t see fruit.  He sees every tear, hears every prayer, notices every sacrifice you make on your child’s behalf.

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“….being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 1:6

{ 7 Comments }

  1. Wise words, thanks for the encouragement!

  2. Anony-mouse says:

    Wise, indeed! Not all of us get the mommy hugs and kisses so we have to look for them in other places. I haven’t heard “I love you” from my son since toddlerhood – but I know he loves us and cares for us. I just have to find it in the way he looks after certain things, the way I see his prayers expanding as his faith expands, his words to his friends online and things like that. (He’s a good kid, just not expressive. He probably has mild Asperger’s although I never had him formally tested.) I could easily get depressed and think he doesn’t love us or feel for people, but he shows it in his own way – and it’s up to me to look for it, not try to re-mold him.

  3. I love this post. Thank you so much.

  4. I heard a broadcast on the radio this week about parenting, and the speaker said, “Christian parents take far too much credit, and far too much blame, for how our children turn out.” So true . . . We are too often driven by worry or fear for our struggling kids, and get too easily puffed up by the more law-abiding of our kids! Thanks for this great reminder that they are people under construction, and they’re going to make mistakes along the way.

    • Good point. And we’re all under construction to a certain degree, right? I know I am, and ironically it is my kids’ challenging moments that often give insight and cause growth in me…

  5. Shared on Facebook! Very encouraging! Thank you!

  6. Thanks Mary! Amen!