Comments on: New every morning http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 17:45:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jenny http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27737 Jenny Sun, 10 Aug 2008 01:52:16 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27737 Occasional misery must love company, because I agree with the other Moms who said they were relieved to hear that you still had rough days, too. This is not an easy gig. It helps to know others are right beside you. Occasional misery must love company, because I agree with the other Moms who said they were relieved to hear that you still had rough days, too.
This is not an easy gig.
It helps to know others are right beside you.

]]> By: tonia http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27671 tonia Thu, 07 Aug 2008 22:53:36 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27671 one adoptive mom to another: i'm praying for you today. it's NOT easy...and clinging moment by moment is all we can do some days. keep hanging on. God is not only near at every moment, He is walking through each moment with you. you can do all things in Him. (((mary))) one adoptive mom to another: i’m praying for you today. it’s NOT easy…and clinging moment by moment is all we can do some days.

keep hanging on. God is not only near at every moment, He is walking through each moment with you.

you can do all things in Him.

(((mary)))

]]> By: jen http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27650 jen Thu, 07 Aug 2008 13:27:51 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27650 Oh, this road is not an easy one to walk - to allow yourself to experience the grief of another, to allow yourself to mother these children who pull on your heartstrings with such gusto! Hang in there, sweet Mary! You are able to love them, because God loves you with a unending, unstoppable, never-letting-go sort of love! Praying for you today! Oh, this road is not an easy one to walk – to allow yourself to experience the grief of another, to allow yourself to mother these children who pull on your heartstrings with such gusto! Hang in there, sweet Mary! You are able to love them, because God loves you with a unending, unstoppable, never-letting-go sort of love!

Praying for you today!

]]> By: Cathy http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27625 Cathy Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:57:36 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27625 Hi Mary, I'm going to put my counselor's hat on for a minute. That private blog or just a journal might be just what you need. We all need to vent and talk things out, that is not whinning! That is staying mentally healthy and surviving. God gave us all a mind and the ability to work these things out and find the venues or the people we need to help us work these problems through. Speaking of which, I can't get your feed to take my email address! Peace, Cathy Hi Mary, I’m going to put my counselor’s hat on for a minute. That private blog or just a journal might be just what you need. We all need to vent and talk things out, that is not whinning! That is staying mentally healthy and surviving. God gave us all a mind and the ability to work these things out and find the venues or the people we need to help us work these problems through.
Speaking of which, I can’t get your feed to take my email address!
Peace, Cathy

]]> By: Jeanne http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27617 Jeanne Wed, 06 Aug 2008 21:47:35 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27617 I don't "let it all hang out on my blog" not because I wouldn't be happy to share or discuss the real tough parts of bringing home a 12 year old, but because my child can read - and my blog is not private. And her friends can read. A private yahoo group, where conversations are not archived, is such a safe way to encourage, share ideas and yes - sometimes vent. I can't tell you how much my support group means to me. I hope anyone in my position can join or start their own group like this. Also, since all of my yahoo Moms have kids who lived together, we can share information that we learn about how our kid's early lives were. We have learned quite a bit from each other - since we all gain little tidbits that are different from what our own kids divulge. I don’t “let it all hang out on my blog” not because I wouldn’t be happy to share or discuss the real tough parts of bringing home a 12 year old, but because my child can read – and my blog is not private. And her friends can read. A private yahoo group, where conversations are not archived, is such a safe way to encourage, share ideas and yes – sometimes vent. I can’t tell you how much my support group means to me. I hope anyone in my position can join or start their own group like this. Also, since all of my yahoo Moms have kids who lived together, we can share information that we learn about how our kid’s early lives were. We have learned quite a bit from each other – since we all gain little tidbits that are different from what our own kids divulge.

]]> By: Shama-Lama Mama http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27614 Shama-Lama Mama Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:20:45 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27614 Hey, you don't need another blog where you can REALLY let it all hang out! This space is TOTALLY acceptable for that. I have three kids and first came to this blog in wonder of someone who can handle SO much more than me. Its actually heartening for me (and I am sure others) that you have your hard days, your frustrations, just like us. It helps to know there is no real Wonder Woman out there and we all just do our best. So VENT! Blow off steam. You won't scare us away. You will only make us see all sides of parenting lots of children. And that is what this blog is for, isn't it? Hey, you don’t need another blog where you can REALLY let it all hang out! This space is TOTALLY acceptable for that. I have three kids and first came to this blog in wonder of someone who can handle SO much more than me. Its actually heartening for me (and I am sure others) that you have your hard days, your frustrations, just like us. It helps to know there is no real Wonder Woman out there and we all just do our best.

So VENT! Blow off steam. You won’t scare us away. You will only make us see all sides of parenting lots of children. And that is what this blog is for, isn’t it?

]]> By: Jodi http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27596 Jodi Wed, 06 Aug 2008 17:25:40 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27596 Oh boy am I ever glad to hear you do have tough days with your newer kids. We have adopted three of our nieces and nephews. Our nephews have been here just over a year now and there are MANY days that we go through what you have just gone through. I was beginning to wonder if we got the short end of the adoption stick since it seems no one ever talks about how hard adoption is. Even the shows on t.v. show the parents gushing and it makes me wonder if they adopted angels or something. I know I would appreciate it if you would post a little more often about how you are struggling and how you are dealing with it. Most days I don't think I am dealing with it, just existing. Oh boy am I ever glad to hear you do have tough days with your newer kids.

We have adopted three of our nieces and nephews. Our nephews have been here just over a year now and there are MANY days that we go through what you have just gone through. I was beginning to wonder if we got the short end of the adoption stick since it seems no one ever talks about how hard adoption is. Even the shows on t.v. show the parents gushing and it makes me wonder if they adopted angels or something.

I know I would appreciate it if you would post a little more often about how you are struggling and how you are dealing with it. Most days I don’t think I am dealing with it, just existing.

]]> By: Chris http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27595 Chris Wed, 06 Aug 2008 14:17:55 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27595 Mary, Hang in there! I know just how you feel right now. My 4 yr old told me last night when I tucked her in that she asked the daycare lady if she could move in with her, but the woman told her that since she already has a family she is lucky and will stay with us. My daughter was very upset and realllly wanted to go with her. Our daycare provider has 3 of her own children, and also fosters others when needed. I guess my little girl saw that she takes kids in and came up with this idea. I was upset the rest of the night, couldn't even sleep. This morning I asked the daycare woman about this and she said McKenzie had NEVER had that conversation with her. So my little angel, princess, etc. was intentionally trying to hurt me. Is that possible at 4 yrs. old???!! And all because I told her for one night I wanted her to show me she could sleep in her own bed. Today I feel like a zombie. Kids do not always realize the effect that their behavior has on us. When they are being mean, or arguing, they don't at all imagine that we are going crazy inside. Then once they get over it and you can get some big kisses and cuddles from them you forget all about it. Kind of like childbirth. :) Anyway, I hope you have a much better day today and gather some strength to go on like normal. (while you're at it, send some my way) :) Chris Mary,
Hang in there! I know just how you feel right now. My 4 yr old told me last night when I tucked her in that she asked the daycare lady if she could move in with her, but the woman told her that since she already has a family she is lucky and will stay with us. My daughter was very upset and realllly wanted to go with her. Our daycare provider has 3 of her own children, and also fosters others when needed. I guess my little girl saw that she takes kids in and came up with this idea. I was upset the rest of the night, couldn’t even sleep. This morning I asked the daycare woman about this and she said McKenzie had NEVER had that conversation with her. So my little angel, princess, etc. was intentionally trying to hurt me. Is that possible at 4 yrs. old???!! And all because I told her for one night I wanted her to show me she could sleep in her own bed. Today I feel like a zombie. Kids do not always realize the effect that their behavior has on us. When they are being mean, or arguing, they don’t at all imagine that we are going crazy inside. Then once they get over it and you can get some big kisses and cuddles from them you forget all about it. Kind of like childbirth. :)
Anyway, I hope you have a much better day today and gather some strength to go on like normal. (while you’re at it, send some my way) :)
Chris

]]> By: Sharon http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27594 Sharon Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:48:37 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27594 Oh Mary, I have many of those SAME kinds of days. Life was SOOOO much better/easier/happier/whatever in Ethiopia. And, there was MORE food! How about a discussion group for families who adopt older kids from Ethio? Might be someone out there with the "fix-all" we could all use! Oh Mary, I have many of those SAME kinds of days. Life was SOOOO much better/easier/happier/whatever in Ethiopia. And, there was MORE food!

How about a discussion group for families who adopt older kids from Ethio? Might be someone out there with the “fix-all” we could all use!

]]> By: Michele http://www.owlhaven.net/2008/08/05/new-every-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-27592 Michele Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:25:59 +0000 http://www.owlhaven.net/?p=2121#comment-27592 Mary, just being there and not giving up, not walking out and heading to Bermuda (and that sometimes ENTICING triangle where people disappear) is a float of grace. Grace. And the mark of an awesome mom. And today, you'll be tired but maybe maybe able to breath a bit. I hope so. You're in my prayers and thoughts. And I remind myself often that we are not called to succeed (though you did) or fix it every day or time, we are called to get up and start again. That's it. Perseverance is a great grace and one that can be begged for too! Hang in there! LoveM Mary, just being there and not giving up, not walking out and heading to Bermuda (and that sometimes ENTICING triangle where people disappear) is a float of grace. Grace. And the mark of an awesome mom. And today, you’ll be tired but maybe maybe able to breath a bit. I hope so. You’re in my prayers and thoughts. And I remind myself often that we are not called to succeed (though you did) or fix it every day or time, we are called to get up and start again. That’s it. Perseverance is a great grace and one that can be begged for too! Hang in there! LoveM

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